Intimate partner violence, or domestic violence, happens at equal or even higher rates in LGBTQ+ relationships compared to heterosexual relationships.


    • From NCADV
      • 43.8% of lesbian women and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime, as opposed to 35% of heterosexual women.
      • 26% of gay men and 37.3% of bisexual men have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime, in comparison to 29% of heterosexual men.
      • In a study of male same sex relationships, only 26% of men called the police for assistance after experiencing near-lethal violence.
      • Transgender victims are more likely to experience intimate partner violence in public, compared to those who do not identify as transgender.
      • LGBTQ Black/African American victims are more likely to experience physical intimate partner violence, compared to those who do not identify as Black/African American.
    • It is estimated that 1 out of 4 LGBTQ youth will experience abuse from a dating partner.
    • According to the 2015 US Transgender Survey, 54% of people who responded experienced some form of partner abuse.

Common barriers in the LGBTQ+ community to seeking service or safety

1) Societal homophobia and transphobia
2.) Lack of legal protections dealing with property, finances and children.
3.) Fear that the person choosing to abuse will "out" the victim to friends, family or co-workers.
4.) Isolation: May not know other people within the community to reach out for help.
5.) Not wanting to place further negative stigma upon the LGBTQ+ community by reporting.
6.) Fear of services not being welcoming and affirming of LGBTQ+ people

Signs you may be experiencing abuse

Emotional abuse
Threats of suicide or self-harm and/or child or pet custody threats
Breaking into social networking accounts
Re-defining reality/dismissing feelings
Isolation from LGBTQ+ social spaces, groups, family, and friends and sabotaging relationships.
Verbal threats
Demeaning in front of family or friends
Name-Calling (to include slang against sexuality)
Obsessive jealousy and accusations of infidelity
Manipulation and lying

Sexual abuse

Unwanted public displays of affection or withholding affection
Rape and/or sexual assault (Unwanted touching, sexual acts)
Refusing safer sex practices
Exposure to or nondisclosure of STIs and STDs
Identity policing or demeaning partner for being too "butch" or too "femme"
Force or roughness that is not consensual

Physical abuse

Sleep deprivation
Throwing objects and/or threats to hurt/kill
Withholding medications, accessibility aids, etc.
Not allowing partner to heal from surgery
Hitting, pushing, biting, strangulation, pulling hair, burning, kicking, etc.
Preventing partner from leaving, blocking exit, taking phone away
Locking partner in or out of home
Damaging belongings
Forced use of substances

Cultural/Identity abuse

Controlling identity and gender expression and/or using the wrong name/pronouns
Outing/threatening to out around HIV, SM, polyamory, gender identity, sexuality, (dis)ability, immigration status, etc.
Preventing association with community and culture by forbidding foods, language, and spiritual practices
Using wrong language to describe body parts
Using partner's internal homophobia or transphobia to demean or evoke fear
Blaming abuse on partner's identity or behavior
Forcing partner to "come out" or to hide identity
Ridiculing partner's gender identity: appearance, dress, voice and grooming.

Financial abuse

Jeopardizing public assistance
Making late for work/school or forcing to leave early, harassment
Forcing or prohibiting employment including sex work
Preventing access to income and/or insisting all money be shared
Preventing access to benefits

Local/State LGBTQ Resources

Gender Pack (Fairbanks)
Peer2peer support group for all transgender, genderqueer, gender questioning, or otherwise gender-bending folks in Alaska's interior. Meetings are open to friends, family members and supporters. Group meets the first Thursday of every month. 

PFLAG Fairbanks Chapter
P.O. Box 82290 Fairbanks, AK 99708
PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons, their families, and friends.

Full Spectrum Health
Phone: (907) 229-9766
An outpatient clinic located in Anchorage, Alaska. At Full Spectrum, we provide individual and group outpatient services, consultation and training. Services include medical, mental health, and telehealth. They accept Medicaid and are LGBTQ inclusive. 

Identity Inc.
Mailing address:
P.O. Box 200070
Anchorage, AK. 99520-0070
Identity’s mission is to advance Alaska’s LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) community through advocacy, education and connectivity.

  • Help Line (Identity)

Staffed by trained and caring volunteers, the Helpline is here to provide you with information on resources, referrals for assistance, and a sympathetic ear.
Hours: 6 pm – 11 pm, 7 days a week
907-258-4777 – in Anchorage
888-901-9876 – toll free outside Anchorage

Pride Foundation
Scholarships and Grants
Our work is grounded in social justice philanthropy. We are committed to:

  • Harnessing our fundraising, grantmaking, program, and advocacy efforts to address root causes of discrimination impacting the LGBTQ community;
  • Supporting community leaders and organizations that work to eliminate long-standing barriers to equal access, opportunities, and resources for LGBTQ people; and
  • Expanding and deepening the level of engagement among all LGBTQ people and allies, including people who are economically, racially, socially, geographically, or politically disenfranchised.

ACLU of Alaska

Transgender Leadership Alaska (hyperlink

National Resources

The North West Network of Bi, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse
Works to end violence and abuse by building loving and equitable relationships in our community and across the country.

Trans Lifeline
Hotline staffed by transgender people for transgender people. Trans Lifeline volunteers are ready to respond to whatever support needs members of our community might have. 

The Trevor Project
National organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) young people ages 13-24.

The National Center for Transgender Equality

Lambda Legal 


Human Rights Campaign’s Buyers Guide

Trans Empowerment Project

New Era Pharmacy